Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Until DEATH do US part...

Marriage is a union that no one should ever take lightly; to have a soulmate has to be the most uplifting experience of a lifetime.  My grandparents would have been married for over 50 plus years; however, God saw fit to call a great man home. “PaPa” finished his earthly duties last Friday, fighting all the way until the end.  The emotional state of a human being during moments as such can take a lot out of a person.  When I received the news, my heart skipped a beat; I couldn’t believe that PaPa was actually gone.  My next thought was “Am I allowed to be sad over this lost?” or “Even though I am only his step granddaughter, was I given the “OK” to shed tears?” 

As strange as that may sound, those were my actual feelings; I had only known him for the last 15 years of my life.  I begin to think about the mental states of my stepmom, dad, uncles, aunts, cousins, and mostly my grandmother, Lou.  These were the individuals that spent their entire lives with this great man; they shared family reunions, holidays, sporting events, deep conversations, etc.  I have to tell you, if you ever met this couple, you would instantly fall in love.  Lou & PaPa were the type of couple that all married couple should have aspired to be; they truly loved each other….WAIT. Will this type of love ever come to be?  What does it feel like to lose a love like such? RESUME.  I can only imagine the emotional disbelief that my grandmother is feeling right now; how do you honestly say “goodbye” to someone that has shared a bed with you for over 50 years; someone who helped you raise children & grandchildren; someone who knows you almost better than God; someone that has wiped away tears, while placing smiles on your face; someone who held your hand through all situations, no matter the circumstance; someone who stand before God & others to profess their love for you.  I can imagine that Lou & PaPa took these particular words to their true form:

“to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish, 'til death do us part,
according to God's holy ordinance”

My heart goes out to Lou; I pray that God grants her strength through these moments, always remembering the love of her soulmate.  I think about my stepmom, dad, uncles & aunts; I pray that they cherish the memories of their dad.  I extend my thoughts to my cousins; I pray that they accept & apply the lessons that were given.  As for me, I pray that God gives me the wisdom to be there for my family on Saturday.  There is nothing like a funeral when it hits close to home…..

Rest in Peace PaPa!  This Creole Soul will surely miss your smile, laughter, welcoming arms, and mostly your warm heart!!!!

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