Thursday, December 22, 2011

A New ADVENTURE called....

The beauty of slowly getting to know someone of the opposite sex is fascinating; it has become a lesson that I can NEVER forget…okay, so I guess  you are probably wondering where I’m going with this and why I continue to talking about dating.  I suppose I do so because it’s something, basically, new for me.  Have you ever had a feeling of disbelief that something so wonderful could actually happen for you?  Maybe so…well, throw heartache, pain, lies, and troubled relationships into that equation, and I promise you might understand.  To say that I’m a giddy, 27 year old business woman has to be an understatement; I am beyond that…WAIT. Am I really saying all of this?  This can’t be me; well, maybe it can be, but I am so not use to this…If this feelings ever leaves, I know that I will definitely want it BACK! RESUME.   I can just imagine my family and friends saying “You aren’t supposed to show this much emotion about a guy already…it might run him away.”  I find the statement true, which is why I should explain something:  I’m giddy about having him in my life right now, but I’m giddier about what he represents. 

Child of God; Strong; Thinker; Protector; Caring; Giving; Loves Life; Gentle; Music Lover; Hardworker; Family Man(who loves his mother)…these are great qualities that I love about Mr. Hardworker & these are some of the things that I placed on my “List”; this list was read to God, showing him what I wanted from a man.  Now, true enough, no one ever puts negative qualities on their list…HA!  However, I did tell God what I could not handle, such as: Married Men, Liars, Thieves; Lazy Men; Lacks Drive, Motivation, & Determination.  I can say that I am none of these things and I couldn’t tolerate someone that was; and as far as I can tell, Mr. Hardworker doesn’t show these qualities at all *pausing for a moment and asking God to show me if these signs are there…but I seriously doubt it* Now, let me take more time to discuss what Mr. Hardworker represents:
1.       Patience; He’s the kind of guy that you know takes his time with everything, allowing the simple things to make him happy.
2.       Kindheartedness; He gives freely to those in need, without any question.
3.       New Beginnings; He provides me with a “fresh start”
4.       Flaws; We all have them and I don’t think he is any different…and he openly tells me about them.
5.       Change; He has shown me that changing my dating process is wise.
6.       Coach, Mr. Chocolate, Bud, Tide, and more; Okay, I can’t help it…anytime he does something, I end up giving him another nickname (and I think he loves every one of them…HA!)

Our friendship is still new and fresh; it’s a bond that I pray will last until the end of time.  I mean, I think we both are getting the best deal possible:  We each gain a best friend & true connection, plus we can work toward a serious commitment if we choose to. WAIT. He reminds me of Darius and I’m Nina (Love Jones); if you have seen the movie, you know their connection was STRONG.  The scene when he was running after her on the train dock was CLASSIC!  Do guys do that anymore?  And have you noticed that guys fall for a female, sometimes, quicker than the females fall for a guy?  I don’t know what the case is for me and Mr. Hardworker…..*whispering* I think it might be equal, but don’t tell him I said that…. J RESUME.

Okay, so there you have it; if you have asked me for the last 3 months why I smiled so BIG, this should sum it up.  I am enjoying this new found friendship and appreciating all the lessons that God is presenting to me.  I have realized that this friendship represents so much for me; more than anything, it just shows me that
1.       Men and Women can be friends.
2.       Successful relationships have a solid foundation called FRIENDSHIP.
3.       Great things come to those who wait.
4.       Keeping a pair of earring, lipgloss/lipstick/Vaseline, and a stick of gum on hand at all times is KEY; Hey, you never know when you will be asked out.
5.       God is the ultimate MATCHMAKER & NAVIGATOR; only He knows the right MATE for you, so just be patient and enjoy life (and all the dates you get).

So, there you have it…the story of my beautiful friendship; and don’t worry, I did discuss it with Mr. Hardworker and he gave it the “green light”. See….
Me: I won’t mention you, unless you say it’s cool…lol
Him: Aww, how sweet!
Me: So, is that the green light to share with the world my new adventure?
Him: What is your new adventure, if I may ask?
Me: You, so to speak…Most chicks rush and I can finally testify that SLOW is key; well, maybe not that SLOW…LOL!  I never use actually names, just speak about my experiences for others to learn.
Him: Green light then ;-)

this creole guillory can’t wait to experience the next chapter in this adventure…who knows where it will take me…all smiles though!

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

LC Homecoming: Part 2

HOMECOMING was OFF the CHAIN….so much happened and I don’t even know where to begin!  Okay, so the drive to Jackson was super intense; I couldn’t wait to “touch down” and see my girls, aka “Boos”.  Boo got a new spot, so getting directions was crazy…however, once I stepped through the door, I knew that we all had reached a new place in life.  It felt like I hadn’t seen these girls in years (well, I hadn’t…almost 3 years for some).  After much needed updates on kids, guys, careers, and overall life changes, we did three of the things we did best:  DINNER, DRINKS, & DON’T EVEN ASK!!!!!  It felt like old times again, laughing, taking snapshots in the restaurant, and toasting to the weekend ahead.  I realized that I must be getting old because I didn’t want to go to anybody’s party, even though I did get a chance to peek at the LC fam that got to partake in the festivities.  A part of me wanted to see “New Millennium” or "91", just to show him that I was fly and didn’t need his love or affection (not like he was doing much for me anyways, but that's old news anyways)…After small talk, I began to notice that all of my Boos had new men in their lives; I was digging this new guy, something like a “love interest”…He wasn’t my man, more like a cool friend. WAIT. I hate when the girls have someone and I don’t; I was happy that I had something to report on this visit…it’s funny how you aren’t dating the guy, but to your girls you have to pass him off as the “someone special” in your life.  Boy, the things that we do to fit in, so to speak. RESUME.

The next morning, we once again fell into the same pattern; we NEVER go to the parade (well, this time my “8” had to make her debut as an “Alumni Cheerleader”)…the rest of us made our way out of Boo’s place and headed to Perkins (see, this is the reason that I couldn’t lose those “Freshman Fifteen” during my Sophomore, Junior, and Senior year…LMBO.  That’s another story for another day….).  Shopping made the list next, followed by crowed bathroom mirror checks for hair and makeup; FINALLY, we make it to LC Homecoming Tailgate.  The only time that I ever went into the football game was during my LC Pre-Alumni Council days.  So, what do I see when I first step on the street:
1.       Tents, tents, and more tents
2.       Barbeque grills EVERYWHERE!
3.       Greek Love
4.       Beautiful Black folk
5.       Lane College’s “Power of Potential”

Everything that I hoped LC Homecoming to be, it was PLUS more.  I took more pictures than I could imagine, I hugged more people than I expected, and I enjoyed every moment.  There were some surreal moments; moments that I know I will never be able to duplicate again.  It was FAB to have 11 out of 16 of my line sisters in one space; we haven’t done that in FOREVER and I was all smiles…we even had Neos on the yard this year. WAIT. Can I just say that there almost always ends up being a SUPERNEO on EVERY line….so, why did I think it was going to be different?  If you didn’t recognize the SUPERNEO on your line, guess what:  IT PROBABLY WAS YOU!!!!!!  RESUME.  Our annual Greek plot moment was great, until I had to let “INN”ocent Pearl come out…can you imagine that some chick tried to get it with me?  If you have never seen me mad, trust me, you don’t want it.  I could have allowed the chick to take me all the way there, but my Boos pulled me back into reality and just like that, the moment was gone.  The night ended with us chilling with “The Firm” and let’s just say, a video was created….okay, wait, it’s not what you think.  After a few drinks, me and a few of my Boos decided to take the fun into the hallway…I gave the carpet a lap dance, while a few overnight guest enjoyed the show from their balcony. WAIT. Can we say that it was the most OWT things I have experienced, I think…I take that back; I went to Lane College, so that list is actually longer than I thought.  Okay, let me pull out of this moment before I tell WAY TOO MUCH! RESUME.  Let’s just say that I love my Boos and the times that we continue to add to our journey.

Have you ever noticed that when an FAB weekend comes to an end, it seems like your luggage isn’t ready either.  Packing to go home is always the hardest for me; I never want to leave my Boos, even though I know that I have no other choice.  Each minute in Jackson is cherished and I have to sit behind the driver’s seat of reality once again.  Now, you know we can’t leave LC Homecoming weekend without doing what: DINNER, DRINKS, & DON’T EVEN ASK!!!!!  Of course, this is a MUST!  As I hugged my Boos, made promises to continue to KIT, started down I-40, I began to understand the true definition of “Esse Non Videri”…with my Boos, I don’t have to seem I’m someone that I am not… In life, you will come across those people who might make you feel like you have to be a “character”; however, with my Boos and LC Fam, I can be: Qutina, Tina, Boo, Q, “INN”ocent Pearl, QT, Watson, Quad, 4, _____(fill in the blank however you may…)…BASICALLY, I can just BE ME!

this creole guillory is excited about going back to Jackson for LC Basketball Homecoming….smiling already!

Monday, December 19, 2011

A Ride in the Dating WORLD

Dating was a word that I hadn’t used too often; most of the time, it was used only to describe other people’s status.  Here lately, I have decided to play into what this word could actually mean in my life.  My “bestie in my head”, Demetria Lucas aka “Belle”, informs me that dating should be something that you learn, take your time with, and enjoy.  WAIT. I mean really????  Dating????  ME????  This is even too much for me to handle!  How am I supposed to wrap my head around dating in the HUGE CITY of LR??? HA. RESUME.  Okay, so I have decided to take a stab at opening my eyes to something different…and guess what:  I think I have finally gotten the hang of things (well, almost).
Here are some of the “guys” that I have encountered thus far:
GUY Number 1
Him: So, it seems that you might be too busy for me…
Me: *blank stare*  You think?  Why so?
Him: Well, you work, write for a magazine, have a social life, and maybe other things going on…
Me: *shrugging my shoulders* Oh, okay…
WAIT.  Who actually says something like that???  Wouldn’t you think that a man would be happy to know that a woman is trying to establish herself and have her life in order…am I supposed to follow behind him with NO life?  Slightly confused on that one, but OKAY… RESUME.
GUY Number 2
Him: Are you sure you want to talk to an African?
Me: *blinks eyes* I’m not sure…what’s the difference?  Do you have more than one wife?
Him: No, I don’t think I believe in that…
Me: Huh?  You don’t think you believe in that…isn’t that an either “you do” or “you don’t” answer.
Him: Well, in my country, we follow that tradition, but I don’t try to…
Me: *shaking my head* Oh, okay….*pushes the MUTE button and SCREAMS “UGH”*
WAIT. Why is this even happening….where did he even come from?  You try not to follow African tradition in the US; am I dreaming or WHAT?  There has to be someone that can understand me…I need a 60 minute massage and facial ASAP…can we say headache! RESUME.
GUY Number 3
Him: I just want honesty, love, commitment, and partnership with my relationship, along with the other good stuff…
Me: Me too…along with God, substance, support, and stability
Him: Yeah, I see that we are on the same page…we share so many things in common, considering the fact that this convo has lasted for about 6 hours
Me: Feels like I’m talking to someone I have known for years…
WAIT. Okay, could he actually be what I’m thinking…I can’t tell.  I can’t start liking this guy right now OR can I?????  He’s like a breath of fresh air right now…UGH, this is so hard!  Yikes! RESUME.
If this was “The Love Connection”, which guy would the audience pick for me to go on a date with…honey, it wouldn’t even matter because I would surely go with GUY Number 3…He seems to support my decisions, work ethics, and approach towards life.  True, I do want to get married one day, but I don’t think I want to get married tomorrow.  I want the opportunity to enjoy what a man has to offer, on EVERY level.  It’s not easy out here in the dating world, but someone has to do it…and I might as well take a spin at it….

does a creole guillory girl have a chance in the dating scene...stay tuned!!!